This will depend on your own boundaries. What is it you need from a church community? Do you want to be able to share your full self with other members and clergy, and not have your sexual orientation/gender up for debate, or is debate okay as long as it’s within your boundaries for respectful dialogue? Do you need to be in a church where LGBTQ people are openly celebrated and placed in leadership positions? Do you desire to work for change in more conservative sections of the Church? Are you okay with a church community that is not in agreement over how LGBTQ people fit in the Body of Christ? Do you need a community where that question has long been settled affirmatively?
Your own answers to these questions will help you build a framework for what you, as an individual Christian, need and want. Once you understand what you’re looking for, our resources can give you more guidance.
When you’re ready to check out a church, having done your own soul-searching, denominational research, maybe even having checked the church website or contacted the clergy, remember that you can trust your gut. If a church or person feels unsafe, even if for reasons you cannot fully describe, it is okay to leave. You do not have to endure anti-LGBTQ theologies or individuals, nor with people who cross your boundaries, to be a good Christian. That being said, do not give up on searching for a community of Christians who will support, challenge, and love you. You are worth it.